The most significant limitation that holds anyone from becoming the person they want to be, doing the things they want to do, or achieving a life long dream is fear.  We hear this word so much, but do we really know what fear is? What are the emotions and feelings associated with fear that limit people from achieving their true potential?  Below is a list of exactly those feelings and emotions and how they impact our everyday life.

If any of the following stand out to you: Worry, Anxiety, Panic, Phobias, Trauma, Envy, Embarrassment – then it’s time you faced them head on.  Ask yourself, “What has caused this feeling to become so strong it now controls my life?”  Once you have discovered what the limiting factor is, you will then be in a position to be able to take back control and free yourself to be the person you once were or want to be.  Be open and talk about it with someone you feel comfortable with, perhaps a family member, friend, or a local community group. Sometimes it can be hard to do, but speaking about your concerns with particular feelings or emotions is one of the strongest things you can do to help free yourself of that limitation. Bringing the issues and emotions attached to the forefront helps you to become more comfortable and in a ready position to tackle them and regain control.

Remember though, speaking about them to others is only half the battle. You must be prepared to be honest with yourself and have the strength to take some risks and implement action in order to free yourself of whatever is causing you unnecessary distress. Too often when people speak about their issues, they only speak of the physical matter or events, but not the root of the associated emotion attached. Once you have identified the emotion which led to the negative behaviour, you are then in a position to take action. Only with action on your behalf will you see a positive change. Simply holding onto a bad feeling, or emotion in hope that it will sort itself out will only make the issue linger on and then in time, become part of your personality. If you hold onto these unwanted feelings for months or years then you run the risk of not being able to see outside your limitation and become blind to your own potential.

Freeing yourself of fear is possible for anyone to achieve.  A Personal Coach can help you to identify your limitations and restore the confidence you once had in order to get you to where you want to be. You owe it to yourself to live the life you have always dreamed and to be the person you know you are on the inside. Take control of your fears now, and free yourself to live your life today.

Russell O’Neill
Personal Performance Coach
BeFreeToday.com.au

List of feelings attached with fear:

by Mary Closet

* Worry is a mechanism of our psyche that prompts us to do something. The prompting energy is fear – usually fear of some consequence. Because it is fear, the person tends to avoid thinking about it. Thus worry tends to perpetuate itself in a circular way – the fear causes non-action, and non-action further causes worry.

* Anxiety is a fear whose object is nonspecific or vague, whereas worry is about something specific and identified. Anxiety is the result of repeated unprocessed fears that have accumulated in one’s subconscious. It has become a vague feeling about an impending misfortune but which cannot be dealt with because it is unspecified. To resolve it, it must first be converted to specific worries, and then one can apply the guidelines on how to handle worry.

* Panic is an overwhelming fear that makes the person confused and unclear about what to do. This is the accumulated result of many fears, worries and anxieties that have not been resolved and not been handled well. It sometimes results in panic attacks, those inexplicable feelings that may not have any immediate cause but which just manifests in the person.

* Phobias are fear-reactions that are (a) out of proportion to the actual danger, such as jumping and shrieking at the sight of a rat or cockroach, or (b) irrational, such as trembling when seeing the photo of a spider.

* Trauma is a psychological “wound” that can still cause distress in a person. Strictly speaking, acquired fears are really traumas in varying degrees of intensity. But a trauma becomes pathological when it causes periodic distress such as nightmares, intense reactions to anything that reminds one of it, or it severely disturbs one’s daily life and work. .

* Envy is a more complex emotion, since it’s a mixture of a number of things: low self-esteem, resentment, and fear. We don’t envy the successes or achievements of those whom we can identify with, that is, those whom we love and care for. Their achievements are vicariously ours too. On the other hand, the achievements of those whom we cannot identify with, particularly those whom we resent, are felt as threats to our own self-esteem.

* Embarrassment involves a “loss of face” and being confused and perplexed at the same time. The embarrassment may not have been caused by anyone, as when one slips and falls down “disgracefully.” Hence there is no cause for anger toward anyone (except perhaps oneself). The action is withdrawal and hiding, not wanting to face people. At its root is the fear of what people might think or say. Shame is a similar feeling.

– Mary Closet


About Russell O'Neill

Life Coach. Teacher. Musician. Founder of Be Free Today. My passion is to help others excel in life by focusing on their 'true' priorities. Be careful what you wish for around me, you'll find yourself making it happen. Australian born, Australian by nature. When I write, it is usually about all matters that will help individuals better themselves. Strum the odd guitar chord in my free time. Everyone has a story to tell, and I love to hear them! If you're living with passion or trying to find yours, drop me an email friend.